Proverbs 26:18-19 says, “Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death is the man who deceives his neighbor and says, “I am only joking!”
I hate teasing.
The big kicker for me is how teasing is a bitter knife masquerading as “good fun”.
“Oh get a sense of humor.”
“Don’t be so sensitive.”
“When I said you are no good at that, I was just teasing.”
Maybe it’s because teasing is manipulative. Yeah, that’s part of it for sure.
Did you really mean “you are no good (at that)” in “good fun”? What REALLY possesses someone to say such critical things of another?
I also find it interesting how teasing can come from anywhere. It’s like Satan has tricked us into believing we are saying something in fun, all the while we are actually helping drive the knife in the hearers heart. Blaming them.
What’s worse!?! If the receiver of such teasing doesn’t play along then they’re still to blame because they “can’t take a joke”. In truth, they don’t like to bear the brunt of another persons’ evil heart.
Luke 6:45 says, “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”
A lot of the time, teasing, is just advanced bullying. As if you have graduated the minor leagues and joined up with the majors. I can enjoy a good joke just as well as the next person, but, I cannot advocate this form of bullying.
Think about it, you see something in someone that has a shard of truth to it and expound upon it to a degree that is hurtful but just ridiculous enough to evade rebuke.
So as we all go about our hectic holidays, preparing for all that will fill the next few weeks, please prepare your heart to speak in kindness to one another.
James 3:5 says, “So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire!”
And, if you want to tell a joke, make sure it’s not “funny” at the recipients’ expense.
Dear Jesus, you say that the tongue is dangerous and we underestimate this truth. Please stop us before we utter hurtful words to one another especially under the guise of humor. Please keep us fixed on you this holiday season and clean our hearts so that your glory would pour out of us. Amen.